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Why Being Always There Makes People Care Less

 


    Have you seen that when you're always free for others, they stop valuing you? If you're quick to help, always say yes, and put others first, people start expecting it instead of appreciating it. Your kindness becomes normal to them.

        This happens because people get used to things that are always there. If you're always available, they don't see your time as special anymore. But when you start saying no sometimes, people notice your worth more.

        Being nice doesn't mean you have to do everything for others. Some people think if they keep giving, others will like them more. But often, the opposite happens - people respect you less when you never say no.

        Setting limits is important. When you say no sometimes or take time for yourself, people learn to respect your time. This isn't being mean - it's being smart about who gets your energy.

        At first, this change might feel strange. Some people might not like it because they're used to you always being there. But this shows you who really cares about you.

        When you stop always being available, your relationships get better. People start treating you better because they see your time is valuable. Good relationships should go both ways.

        Taking care of yourself is important too. Always helping others can make you tired and stressed. When you set limits, you have more energy for things that matter to you.

        People respect you more when you respect yourself. If you always try to please everyone, they won't value you. But when you value your own time, others will too.

        You don't need to be liked by everyone. It's better to have a few good friends who really care about you than many who just want things from you.

        Start treating your time as important. Be there for people who deserve it, but don't be afraid to say no. When you do this, you'll feel stronger and people will respect you more. Remember - you're important too.

 

Citation:

Better Ideas. "Why Being Too Nice Makes People Respect You Less." YouTube video, 10:15. June 15, 2023. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qJYPzG0Rfs.

 

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