Pause & Rethink

       The old book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible gives us a very honest, but often sad, look at life. The writer, Kohelet, doesn't try to make us feel good. Instead, he tells us something many people don't want to hear: even if we try hard to be good and honest, life can still be tough and unfair .       Kohelet talks about how we often chase happiness and success, but he says these things don't last. He calls them "Hevel," which means like a puff of smoke or vapor. It looks real for a moment, but then it's gone when you try to grab it. This is how he sees life – it's not solid or easy to hold onto. Even today, science agrees that our brains get used to pleasure quickly, so we always want more.      What's surprising is that Kohelet believes in God, but he sees God as someone who doesn't step in to help us. He thinks God set up the world and then just watches it go. This God doesn't give comfort or answers. Kohelet even suggests tha...

Have you ever wondered why the person who hurt you seems to forget what they did, even though you remember every detail? Why can they sleep soundly while you're still awake, replaying every single moment? The answer lies in deep psychological concepts explained by Carl Jung. It explores why some people avoid accountability and how it impacts you. The person who hurt you actually remembers everything they did. But they don't want to admit it. This is because of something Carl Jung called the "shadow self," which are the parts of ourselves we don't like. Instead of facing their own undesirable aspects, they make you carry that burden. They don't truly forget; they choose to forget. This is because remembering would mean they have to take responsibility and change, which they find terrifying. These individuals build their lives around never confronting that fear. They use excuses like, "I don't remember it that way," or "You're bein...

  For many people, a car is not just a machine to travel. It often shows who they are or who they want to be. A shiny car and a loud engine can feel like a part of themselves. Because of this, cars become more than just tools.              Car companies know this feeling very well. They don’t just sell cars; they sell dreams and ideas. They tell stories that make people believe owning a certain car means they are successful or important. So, buying a car is often about how others see you.              Many people choose cars to look good to others, not because they really need that kind of car. This can lead to expensive choices. Sometimes people buy cars because it feels like it will give them respect or show success, even if the car is not practical for their everyday life.              But chasing this image comes with prob...

       Many people these days connect the idea of happiness to how much money someone owns. Some even believe you must have a million dollars before you can truly feel happy. This idea makes it seem like only rich people can have happiness. But if happiness depends on having a lot of money, most people would always feel like something is missing in their lives.              When people set very high goals for happiness, like becoming a millionaire, they often feel unhappy with what they have now. For example, someone who has saved up one hundred thousand dollars might still feel unhappy, thinking it's not enough. This is because they think they need nine hundred thousand dollars more to be happy. This feeling is not just about money—it also makes people feel unhappy and incomplete inside. This creates stress and makes life less enjoyable.             When ...

       Today, we are bombarded by the idea that we must always be busy and productive. We are treated more like machines than people, expected to keep working without stopping. This way of thinking started in the Industrial Age and has only grown stronger in the digital era. Now, people are often judged only by how much they can do or produce.      This constant pressure is wearing us down, both inside and out. We are always told to work harder, come up with new ideas, and never slow down. But this takes away our energy and joy. Taking a break or just relaxing is often seen as being lazy, but actually, it’s something all humans need.      The mental and emotional damage from this nonstop chase for productivity is serious. Even when people reach big goals, they often don’t feel happy or fulfilled. Instead, they feel empty inside, and sometimes this leads to breakdowns or depression. The fear of not being good enough or falling behind...

         Since we were kids, we’ve been told to work hard now , wait, and only enjoy life when we retire. Retirement is sold as the big reward after years of hard work.     But if you look closer, retirement is actually a new idea. It started in the 1900s. Back then, most people didn’t even live long enough to retire! The real reason for retirement was to move older workers out and let younger ones in—not to give people a prize.     This idea has a hidden problem: it teaches us to delay living our lives. We put off our dreams, our relationships, and even our health, hoping for a future reward that might never come. We press pause on living, waiting for a signal that may never show up.     And when retirement finally comes? Often, it’s not freedom, but emptiness. People lose their work identity, feel lost, and sometimes regret waiting so long.     Money-wise, things have changed. The old p...